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The "overwhelm" factor in my life was so debilitating that I was unable to perform functions as basic as paying my bills on time. I didn't have a job and had no money coming in. I had just decided to close the business I had been running, or stated more correctly, had been "running" me for almost five years. This was the fifth career in which I achieved "failure" status. My wife was feeling very insecure, which had a major effect, of course, on our family. At age 46 and just weeks away from turning 47, I was very dejected, to say the least, and sinking fast. That's when I realized I had all the symptoms of ADD.

Over the years I consistently experienced job losses. I concluded that I would never be able to hold a job for more than a couple years because they would finally see all my "flaws." Being self-employed seemed the only course possible for me to survive. Yet, I was faced with the challenge of starting a new business and was wondering if I would be able to change my behaviors that would lead to another failure. I had always been great at the "starting gate" and could keep my momentum in the race fairly well until I hit the "home stretch". The finish line would be so close and yet so far as I would lose focus, forget the details (or get lost in them) and not follow through. I decided I would "run the race" differently and hired a coach.

With the help of my coach, I was able to gather my thoughts and I decided on the best career course. I secured a job in which I was able to employ my strengths and achieve harmony and satisfaction for the first time in my life. As usual, I left the "starting gate" at a good clip. I soon reached a bend in the track that appeared like a large challenge to me: I was slower at some tasks as compared to my peers. I worked on ways to improve my speed, and more importantly, my coach couplecoachinghelped me to see that I was appreciated for my thoroughness which is one of the reasons I am slower. It's interesting... things began to look a bit different as I rounded the bend. Within less than two years, my salary increased more than 50% and I became a valued and respected employee.

As I continued on, I reached that critical place, "the home stretch", where I would usually get fired. I became more concerned with the possibility of the "inevitable

failure" and questioned things happening at work. My coach helped me to avoid sabotaging myself (as I had done many times in the past). I honed my communications and relationship skills. Reality checks helped me to see that I really am an asset.

As I worked on maintaining my "pace" at work, my wife and I engaged in couples coaching to enhance our relationship. We learned new ways to appreciate and love each other which deepened our trust and compassion. These were added benefits as I worked on my career.

I have been employed with the same company for Five (5) years as of this Month! I have smoothed out relations with my wife and she feels much more secure and I am back on track with my family. I have a system for keeping my overwhelm factor in check. Pacing with my ADD is much easier than racing against it... and the finish line is closer than ever these days. I believe in me... I have finally found my life!

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 ADDA Focus Newsletter

Authored by Twila Gates, RN, ADHD Coach for Alan T.
We jointly wish that this article will provide hope for others who are experiencing career failure and strength for others who are currently implementing new career skills... you can make it!

ADHD Coaching: What Our Clients Are Saying

"Before I worked with Twila I was feeling like life was pretty chaotic. I didn't seem to have a grip on things and I felt like my communication skills were poor. "I wasn't doing a good job of letting co-workers and my partner know what I needed from them. I seemed to be working under a general state of overwhelm. I have worked with Twila for a couple years. For me this has been time and money WELL SPENT. I am much more organized, thoughts and life. Before I couldn't see past the chaos but now I seem to be able to step back from things and see the real issues. I have been able to identify key areas needing attention in my life. I have made a lot of healthy improvements. This was something I didn't seem to be able to do on my own. I have improved my communication skills, personal and professional, and relationships are better. My partner said he has seen a great change in me all for the better. He has seen me grow and better myself and this has encouraged him to do some of his own work. Twila seems genuinely interested in my success as a person."
Kelly J., Washington



Twila is a super coach -- attentive, caring, organized and skillful. I worked with Twila for several years and gained the much needed skills to handle numerous drises that I was experiencing after a divorce and in establishing myself in a career. Twila is nonjudgmental, very easy to talk to and insightful. One of the important life skills that I gained from our sessions was learning the difference between discernment and judgment and how to employ these insights in interpersonal relationships. If you are in transition and trying to figure out a new path, Twila will be a tremendous resource and personal advocate.
Sabrina - New York
"This note comes to say how much I appreciated your support and wisdom as my coach. You were an awesome aspect of my life. I'm not sure what this year has coming ... but whatever it is I am excited and looking forward to "it" ! All in all, I'm looking for good things to happen this year and I still recognize this past year as my "MIRACLE" Year because God provided immensely but most of all with help from him and others like you, Twila – I survived !!! "
Janice M.
“Coaching has been a true life changer & saver for me. Most likely the results are going to be different for everyone, as dictated by different situations. For me, this has not only helped my career and college goals become enjoyable and achievable, but it has almost essentially helped me to combine all of the important things in my life much more efficiently, so that I have been able to pretty much save the severe degradation of my marriage. ADD/ADHD has, without knowing that it even existed, been an absolute key product of absolute upheaval and chaos in my life. Since I’ve been getting help from Twila, I’m truly realizing what I’ve been missing most all of my life. Needless to say, I would highly encourage you to consider life coaching if it has been recommended, or you think it might possibly be helpful for you. So far so good for me.”
Glen H.
"I have always felt like I take two steps forward and four back. Having a coach helps me to keep the steps I take and more. The last two years has been life changing financially, physically and mentally. I look forward to my calls. I can never thank Twila enough for her support and encouragement."
Lori S., Arizona
"When I first contacted Twila the "overwhelm" factor in my life was so debilitating that I was unable to perform functions as basic as paying my bills on time. I didn't have a job and had no money coming in. I had just decided to close the business I had been running, or stated more correctly, had been running me for almost five years. This was the fifth career in which I achieved "failure" status. My wife was feeling very insecure, which had a major effect, of course, on our family. At age 46 and just weeks away from turning 47, I was very dejected, to say the least, and sinking fast. That's when I realized I had all the symptoms of ADD, and found coaching.Twila helped me gather my thoughts, decide on the best career course to follow and smooth out relations with my wife and children. She helped me do all this within the span of a few months. I secured a job in which I was able to employ my strengths and achieve harmony and satisfaction for the first time in my life. Within less than two years, my salary has increased more than 50%, I am valued and respected at work, my wife feels much more secure and I am back on track with my family. I have a system for keeping my overwhelm factor in check and am improving my efficiency through use of tools for ADHD. Thank you for helping me find my life."
Alan T.
"What have I accomplished through coaching? A better question is what haven't I accomplished through coaching! To state it briefly, I have accomplished a Ph.D., salary raises of $60,000 over 6 years, 4 promotions, respected positions in Fortune 500 companies, and my own business. I have also accomplished a home-life balance, a positive focus on more structure in my parenting, and a greater sense of peace and direction in both my personal and professional lives. "Thank You" does not say it. "Bless you" comes closer."
Jeane F., PhD., Manager of Organizational Effectiveness
“My new house is coming along well. It should be ready by spring... When I move into the new home, my life has progressed in a way that will fit the new home, sort of like a snail growing and needing a new shell... Yes, I now have a full and well-rounded social life!”
Patricia T., Florida
If you have come to a point in your life where you deeply desire to make adjustments in your thinking, habits, processes and/or performance, but feel stuck, Twila can provide tools, training, coaching and accountability necessary to get going and to achieve long term change.
Karl B
ADD can be an overwhelming condition that affects every facet of life….from personal relationships and careers to the mundane. Over the years I’ve worked very hard to educate myself on my condition, believing that through sheer will and determination I could navigate life’s extra ADD challenges. This proved to be a stressful exercise while only producing mixed results. So with my life in disarray it was my great fortune to find Twila Gates. You will not meet a more understanding and compassionate individual with the talent, know-how and desire to see you succeed. Partnering with her produced measureable gains with every goal we set out to achieve. She helped me lift the burden of frustration which had accumulated over a lifetime with strategies tailored to my specific needs. I will always appreciate that she helped me develop the tools to overcome those challenges as well as embrace the positive aspects of ADD as a gift. Twila is an absolute gem and you will count yourself among the fortunate if you have the opportunity to work with her.
Jonathan P.